A woman has shared the biggest red flags to look out for in a new relationship – including why you shouldn’t use pet names or tell the other person you miss them.

Maria Peters from Greenwich, London, has gone viral on TikTok in a clip that has over 1.4 million views, sharing her controversial take on dating in the early stages.

The 33-year-old has stirred a big discussion online with her 31,800 followers (@ammolitefit ) – with three key tips.

“The knowledge of the red flags span from what I have experienced when dating and also what friends of mine have been through,” Maria, a personal trainer and content creator, told http://NeedToKnow.co.uk

“I may have had some terrible dating experiences but I have definitely learnt from them and I’m happy to extend my knowledge to anyone who may find it helpful.

“I do get a fair few private messages asking me for help with their own relationships.”

In the video, Maria speaks to the camera as she shares red flags to be on the lookout for when getting into a new relationship.

SOMEONE SAYING ‘I MISS YOU’

You’d have thought this type of statement would be endearing?

According to Maria, it’s all about timing.

She said: “Someone saying they miss you when they have just met you is absolutely ridiculous in my opinion.

“I will have to hold my hands up and say I have fallen for this love-bombing tactic in the past, and it has always turned out that the person has ill intentions.

“Usually, they are trying to move things along way too fast through this flimsy kind of flattery, which often leads into a rollercoaster of emotions down the track.”

PET NAMES

No baby, honey, or sweetheart here.

She said: “Someone new you are dating calling you baby or any other kind of special names very early on [is another red flag].

“It can be a way of claiming you prematurely when they likely have a thing going with many others at the same time.

“Furthermore, this person likely doesn’t think much of your intelligence.

“They think one will soften towards them and give easier access to one's life if they begin, addressing one by a special name from the get-go.

“It really aids the love-bombing process.”

GETTING A ‘YOU UP?’ TEXT

If you get a text of this kind, run.

She said: “Finally, in the early stages when you don’t hear from the person you are dating for an entire day or longer, and then you randomly receive an 'are you awake' or ‘wyd’ [what are you doing] message late one night, there is no way that person is pursuing you with serious intentions. [sic]

“More than likely, you are their backup option.

“They are benching you, while they pursue the person that they really want, to then resort to texting you when their main person is busy or doesn’t want to speak to them anymore.

“Either that or they are bored in bed so decided to drop you a text.

“In this instance, I’d go so far as to say to just leave them on read.”

Maria’s post has gained 81,900 likes, as well as over 1,000 comments from fans, jumping in to share their own red flags.

Janelle said: “Another one is: ‘I don’t want to hurt you’ on the first date.”

Ally added: “It's the ‘send me your pictures’ that chases me away all the time.”

Cassie said: “My ex said he loved me after one week of dating. ONE WEEK.”

Shell added: “Another one is: ‘I live with someone but the relationship is over.'“

“TikTok has taught me everything I now know about narcissistic behaviour,” said someone else.

“I knew the ‘are you still up’ text was a red flag, especially when you haven't heard from them since 2:00 pm,” added another person.

“Him already saying ‘I love you,’ dude we just met,” said Susu.

DON’T WORRY – THERE ARE GREEN FLAGS, TOO

Thankfully, Maria has also shared some green flags for fans.

She added: “A huge green flag is when the person remembers everything you have told them, acknowledging all your likes and dislikes, keeping all your little quirks in mind when they are communicating with you.

“You are very important to them, they care a great deal about you, respect your boundaries and are serious about a future with you.

“Another is if in public the person has an issue to address with you, they wait to discuss it with you once behind closed doors.

“Big green flag – they have a great deal of respect for you, despite not being very pleased with you at the moment.

“And lastly, another is when they make the effort to quit a habit you don't like, such as smoking, that is huge.

“That person loves you and sees a long future with you.”

ENDS